Showing posts with label control. Show all posts
Showing posts with label control. Show all posts

Saturday, April 18, 2009

Grace Notes:The Grace To Let Go



...[An] attitude worth changing...is the tendency to control others. I find this especially prevalent among those who find their security in religious rigidity.
They get their way by manipulating and intimidating. They use fear tactics, veiled threats, and oblique hints to get their way.
...Controllers win by intimidation. Whether physical or verbal,they bully their way as they attempt to manipulate us into doing their will.


-Charles Swindoll-
Grace Awakening
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Monday, April 6, 2009

I Will Dance Again...


A friend and I recently spoke of the 'conditioning' that sometimes lies subtly dormant in the minds of ex-cult members.
Conditioning being, according to the encyclopedia Britannica:

"Conditioning is a form of learning in which...a given stimulus...becomes increasingly effective in evoking a response... a response occurs with increasing regularity..."
Any questioning of the authority in a Dade City cult elicited sharp and swift consequences. The 'errant' member had 'touched God's anointed mouth piece' according to the cult leader. Public humiliation in church services were the effective tool in 'evoking' a response'.
Who wanted to to be held up as an example of shame in the midst of their peers? Silence was safe; so "a response occurs with increasing regularity" was the silent submission to the cult leader's will.
Now, as we voice loudly and often our dissent with the abusive practices, a 'knee-jerk' conditioning trigger hops in the way of the stretching of our atrophied muscles of speaking aloud wrongs committed.
However, we shan't be stopped in our dance of freedom. We speak the truth, in the faith of God's love, extended even to the flagrant abuser, and dance in the gladness of truth.
We even hope, should God be merciful, that the abuser finds themselves dancing to tune of God-given freedom and mercy.
A fearful, 'conditioned' muscle might put a slight crimp in our joyous bound, but we dance to the words of truth anyway.
Because truly, only by speaking out will the abuse's effectiveness be silenced.
As only by stretching and dancing will the stiff muscle become limber and supple once more.
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Tuesday, March 24, 2009

There is No Such Thing....


There is no such thing as a 'self-made' man. We are made up of thousands of others. Everyone who has ever done a kind deed for us, or spoken one word of encouragement to us, has entered into the make-up of our character and of our thoughts, as well as our success.
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George Matthew Adams-


Tell Me Your Tale:


Was there someone instrumental in your exit out of spiritual abuse and/or a cult?


E-mail me at toxicsheepnomore@yahoo.com with your story of 100 words or less. For the sake of privacy, please do not use the person's full name- a first name or even initials will do.


I retain the right to not publish- if an account is derogatory or threatening in nature, and/or does not 'fit in' with the tone of this blog, I will not publish it.

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Wednesday, February 4, 2009

Controlled

The Autonomy of the Believer blog has posted an informative article concerning narcissistic pastors. Reading through the narcissistic traits, I can't help but believe it is a condition the pastor of my abusive former church is afflicted with.
It amazes me how these manipulative leaders manage to 'suck in' unwary congregants.
Here is the link to the article:
http://theautonomyofthebeliever.blogspot.com/2009/02/your-pastor-might-be-narcissist-if.html